Finding faults isn’t really a good thing. But it’s addictive. Just like other addictions; like drinking coffee, finding faults are a habit pattern, too! I say this because usually when we take a look at  a certain “negative” situation, once we see one fault or problem we tend to look for another, and another, and another and I guess you get the idea.

And just like any normal addiction, you wouldn’t normally know that finding faults is an addiction until someone actually points it out to you. But unless addressed, this addiction will eventually grow and worsen until it slowly takes over your thoughts and thinking patterns. Let me give you an example to clarify.

 

Once my friends and I were talking about one of our classmates which we found really annoying. As the conversation went on, the faults and flaws of this specific classmate was dramatized and made bigger than they actually were. It came up to a point where we looked at even this person’s good side and started finding problems and faults in it. This was when I realized that I might have been addicted to finding faults. 

 

If you can look at someone’s good characteristics and create faults in it, then there is definitely something wrong happening because as much as you might not like someone, you can’t deny that they do have their good side too. Everyone has their good and bad points, remember? It’s the Law of Opposites. There isn’t anyone who is 100% good or completely evil either, everyone has both something positive about them and something negative. To claim that you can’t see anything good in someone would be a lie then.

 

It doesn’t help to look at the bad side of someone or something but it’s even worse to look at their good side and pick out the “bad” that might not even exist within it. Yet this is what many people do. It’s the way that the addiction of finding fault slowly creeps into your daily life. Slowly, this addiction will engulf your thinking, stopping you from finding the truth about a person or situation. Just like in the earlier situation with my friends, where we were just too caught up in finding faults , we didn’t even see the good in the person. 

 

If you’re too busy looking for flaws, even if they don’t exist, you will find them. Every perfection has its flaws, just like how every good has its bad. Even if they are small, your habit pattern of finding flaws will make tiny little flaws that don’t really effect anything, seem like huge and terrible problems that are unsolvable. Not to mention that as per the Law of Vibrations and Attractions (www.ascendancepro.com), you will attract what you seek and will seem to find more faults and reasons to complain and get upset.

 

Imagine if this happens every day, everywhere. Soon, no one would be able to look at anything without seeing its imperfections. Effects of this addiction will begin to show. You can’t be truly happy if you are constantly looking for flaws in everything. Instead, you’d be bitter and picky, never being able to see the brighter side of things; busy living in a pessimistic world. You’d also begin to realise that the more you seem to pick out the flaws in people, the more others would judge and pick the flaws in you. Who would want any of that?

 

So even if you are currently stuck in the addictive habit pattern of finding faults, you can slowly step out of it. Start by trying to be aware of when you seem to be finding unnecessary faults or flaws in someone or something. Slowly, with awareness, you can switch your thoughts into looking at the brighter side of people and things. And in no time, your addiction will start to disappear. But it all starts with the first step – admitting your addiction. Most people have it, but in their ignorance, they don’t see it. So check with yourself if this is one of your traits, and if so, start your process of change slowly.

– Harsha